I'm desperately in need of support!!!
* I'm a full time working mother
* My husband travels for work and is away > 90% of the time
* I have no helper
* Our child Isabelle has a weak immune system and has been sick every other week
It's been tough. Isabelle is sick again, I did not sleep the entire of last night and am on the verge of collapsing. I'm blogging to stay awake cos I know she will wake up at around 11-12 midnight, and I'm afraid I will be so dead knocked out that I cant attend to her properly.
The so called good news is apparently she isn't as ill as before, and we have a great chance of skipping anti biotics this round (for all previous times, it took us 2-3 visits to the paed & 7 days of antibiotics & 7 days of high fever before she recovered). This round, there hasn't been any signs of fever as of day 3 and apparently her chest is all clear. Maybe taking Sambucol has helped a bit. Still, its very worrying that Isabelle is sick every 2-3 weeks with a bad & chronic cough. The paed said her cough is quite bad for her age and she is very prone to bronchitis, so we need to be extra careful.
I'm feeling really down. I dont know what else I can do better to care for Isabelle. I cant help but think that our family situation has indirectly resulted in Isabelle's health being compromised. Today the paed asked me why she never sees Isabelle's daddy. I replied that he travels for work all the time. She paused for a moment and then replied; you need a lot of support to care for your child. And as if pitying me for the situation I am in, she told me not to worry, there is still hope and she would help do what she can to medicate Isabelle so that she recovers and build up her immune system. And she patiently let me ask all the questions & doubts I had, from food to take or avoid, air con or fan, vitamins or supplements.... which is rare as there was a super long queue outside.
Where can I get more support? My parents are already helping. The in-laws dont really care, they dont even call...so let's not even talk about helping. We can't afford a helper (especially if she is going to be idle most of the day time) with Isabelle attending full day child care. Should we pull Isabelle out from school and go back to helper days again? I cant trust engaging a helper anymore (not with more horror storied about maids - the most recent one being my boss's helper posting provacative photos of herself in their home and posting them on facebook, and inviting her son & husband to be her friend!). And it's a pity as Isabelle is enjoying school and learning so much. SHould I opt to work part-time in that case? But I would like to work towards a promotion this year. Praying that I will have the answers to getting more help & support!
try working out with your boss to see if you can work part time for short term basis say 1 year until a more permanent solution.
ReplyDeletei have a manager who converted to part time, she works from 2 to 6pm daily. and even though she doesn't come into the office, she checks her email at home and still do some work at home.
so in that sense, you are paid part time but you work slightly more because you work from home too. in that way, it is a win win situation for you and your boss.
keeping my fingers crossed for you for your boss to empathize with your situation. :)